Have Patience, it is a Virtue



Patience is a great virtue that saves the person having it from many mental agonies and mishappenings. It is principally needed in three types of situations –

  1. While sharing a common resource with others,
  2. For letting a new idea fully developed, and
  3. For let the time heal the wounds.

Since such situations come across very often in a person’s life, we all need patience almost at all times in life.

Sharing a Common Resource

Patience, in this case, means to hold on your next move and wait for your turn as others pass by. Thus, it is not a one-time conduct but a characteristic attribute needing sacrifices from the person for providing room to others like for him/herself for co-existence. In other words, it is recognition of other’s right along with your own rights on the resources we share with others. Humans are social animals and patience is a virtue for them for co-existence with other humans as well as with other forms of life and matter on the Earth.

This type of patience is at frequent display while driving a vehicle on a public road. Also, it need be had in a conversation when a person listens to another person and then responds.

In this case, patience is not passivity but a passive activity of waiting, watching and acting at the right moment. Therefore, its cultivation is related to being idle in waiting and watching while somebody else is active in using a shared resource. If a person can remain idle yet alert, he has the patience. We all have it but in varied degrees.

For Development of a New Idea

Patience is not only required while sharing a common resource with others, but also for having time for a fuller development of the idea through circumstantial interventions. An example of this type of patience is while writing an article on a given topic. If you hurry up writing without considering all the pros and cons of the topic, you won’t be doing full justice with the topic. Instead, if you have time for pondering and grasping all the ideas related to the topic in a routine way as you keep on working on other things, the idea gets matured in a natural way as your mind keeps on working over the topic as you are busy with your other activities. Here, it is only the patience, you need to have for finishing the writing assignment. Here again, the mind remains alert in the background. Similar needs of patience arise in almost all human endeavors.

Let the Wounds Heal

Each of us has bitter experiences every now and then and getting hurt mentally and/or physically in the natural ways of life. If we go into our past few years, we may recall how we got hurt many times but did not notice how our wounds got healed with passage of time. This process too needs patience of the person having a bitter experience.

After a bad experience, if the person keep on thinking about it with being in a hurry to come out of the woes of the experience fast, he/she lets him/herself into a state of being sad and may invite depression. Contrary to this, if the person waits for the storm to pass by while getting busy with his/her activities, all the bitterness of the experience gets washed out in a natural way in due course.

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Cultivation of Patience

From the above, it is obvious that cultivation of patience needs three things –

  • Spirit of coexistence with others sharing the common resource,
  • Alertness of mind while the body waits for the idea reaching a maturity state, and
  • A calm diversion of mind from the current sadness.

So, cultivation of patience needs cultivation of these three aspects in one’s lifestyle. Since, these are naturally occurring, only understanding the logic behind these things is enough for the patience to be a part and parcel of one’s lifestyle.


All forms of life have a spirit of coexistence, and continuing to survive naturally except in rare extinctions. Humans have turned to be more result-oriented than other species, hence loose patience. In this matter, it must be understood that the Nature doesn’t allow sudden changes or results to come in. The smooth changeovers means being time-dependent. This perception sows seeds of patience.

Humans have been trying to mold Nature in accordance to their wishes but it is an impossible dream for the humanity being a component of the Nature and its evolution to this state is also governed by principles of Nature. Patience is the outcome of Natural Principles.


BE the Original YOU


The word ‘original’ means ‘as born’, while life means growth with passage of time, therefore, nothing remains original in life. In about 12 years period, every cell of human body gets changed through gradual deaths of the old ones and their replacements with newly born.

Even at any particular moment of time, a person is differently related to various others as parent, child, sibling, teacher, disciple, friend, enemy, etc and behaves differently with each one. Again, there is no fixed character of the person to be considered universal and original.

A person behaves in different ways at different ages – from highly immoral at some time to an idealist at some others, and in between these two extremities for most of his conducts. Therefore, conduct-wise, there is nothing that may be considered as the person’s originality.

Genetic Reality remains Original

In between these variations, each person carries some genetic information with him/self and that remain steady throughout his/her lifetime. Only, this could be said to be his/her originality. The problem in identification of this information is that this remains subdued by artificial and apparent conduct of the person, or most often, the genetic reality is not allowed by the person him/herself under circumstantial compulsions. Thus, the true originality of a person hardly comes to surface for a recognition by the person him/herself and by anybody else. Even then, this originality is the most important for the person, and one must try his/her best to identify it and live with it.

This genetic information of a person seldom allows him/her to behave immorally, even then, a majority of persons do so at different times of their lives for various reasons, keeping the genetic character subdued under artificial desires and ambitions. There are principally three aspects of life, one needs to identify about – self, work, and the relationship.

Meditate to identify the Self

The best way of living is living the originality after its due identification, recognition and pursuance. But reaching this reality is a bit difficult, still possible. Find some moments for your SELF in your busy lifestyle, and try to ask yourself what you really want to be and look inside yourself for something that would bring contentment to your life irrespective of so many problems and voids in the real world routine life of yours. It is indicated by the deepest desire of yours out of all the things you may be wishing to acquire. On finding this thing, keep on meditating on it with increased duration day by day to confirm that this is the final thing your inner self longs for. Some day soon, you will reach a point where you feel to be knowing your goal of being the original self.

A friend of mine, who has never been to India, has been loving everything about the country through her instinctive urges. She traced out that her great grand-mother was from India, and she carries the activated genetic information from her that makes her longing for the country. This is her true originality.

Do what You Love to Do

Our circumstantial compulsions force us to earn a livelihood in whatever way appearing feasible to us individually. This may not provide even an opportunity to find out whether we really love the job or not, or whether there is an alternative available to us that we would love to do. For reaching this point, just provide few moments to your Self again, and do anything that comes to your mind without bothering whether it makes any sense or not. By doing a little bit, check up whether you are getting attracted or repelled by your doing. If repelled, do something else that comes to your mind. If attracted, increase your time of involvement in the job little by little on daily basis, even if this appears to be a waste of time.

Potter, the Original Creator

This exercise would surely take you to the job you are made for and you would love to do. A persons performs in the best way on the job he/she loves to do, and this is the job, he/she is genetically made for doing and has the natural talent for this job.

Meet You feel Naturally Attracted to

In adolescence to youthfulness, any person of opposite gender coming in contact looks attractive and persons often feel to be in love with each other. Such an attraction may prove to be a mirage soon during the relationship. When a person has a feeling of natural attraction towards somebody far away and inaccessible to him/her, there is going to be some genetic link between the two persons. To reach such a person, focus on your mind and ask it what does it like in terms of facial and other features from a person to get attracted. If possible, draw some sketches of such faces, or watch faces resembling to your liking. Try to meet and go close to the person you get attracted to without a sexual lust in your mind and body. Most often, there is always a person somewhere in the world who is genetically made for you, and that person is your ultimate love-mate. Without meeting this person, you will not feel contented in your relationships.